January 20 to February 18
I KNOW… I know it all and that is how it is.
Element: AIR (intellectual, communicative).
Modality: FIXED (loyal, enduring, determined).
Ruling Planets: Uranus (modern), Saturn (traditional).
Zodiac Symbol: The Water Bearer.
Harmonious compatibility: Aquarius, Pices, Aires, Gemini, Libra, Sagittarius, Capricorn
Difficulty compatibility: Taurus, Leo, Scorpio
Turbulent compatibility: Cancer, Virgo
Opposite (mirror image) with: Leo.
Sexy Aquarius Traits: eccentric individualist, humanitarian, visionary, passionate about big causes, universal, adoring, unique, original, ideal, curious, truthful, freaky and off beat.
Devilish Aquarius Traits: rebellious, elitist, emotionally cool, detached, chaotic, ego, rigid, perverse, obstinate, solitary, demanding, and a freak.
Aquarius Female Aquarius Male How to Attract Aquarius
Is it possible to be the macrocosm in the middle of the microcosm? It’d be like looking for the storm in the eye, instead of the eye in the storm. If this is possible, our best example is Aquarius. All humans have a strong drive to belong that starts in childhood, including Aquarians. Because of this need a natural conformity occurs with families, groups, religions or cultures. Numerous studies have shown that emotional connection to other people is crucial to our survival and success as humans.
Inside of this conformity, individuality becomes difficult to assert because we rely on our communities and groups for that sense of belonging. Being a part of the group is better than being outcast, which can lead to emotional or even physical death in some cases. Fortunately, asserting our individuality gets easier as we get older. Despite this, for some it’s very easy and for others it’s difficult. Some people take it to the extreme and challenge everything risking isolation from a group and not being a part of the “whole” of their given reality and community. Welcome to the paradox of Aquarius – the humanitarian driven by human connection! As much as they desire to be a part of others, a higher drive propels them to global humanitarism. You must understand – it’s not that they want to challenge the norm – they have to.
In our example of a garden which is sowed by Aires; grown by Taurus, identified with itself in Gemini, nurtured by Cancer love, strengthened by the Leo sun, tended to by Virgo, balanced by Libra, regenerated by Scorpio, tilled by Sagittarius and reworked for a new season by Capricorn; Aquarius is the rebel. They do none of the above and instead opt to do what they want to do. They might appear as an unexpected growth after you thought all the seeds were gone. They might mutate with another species and shock you. They might decide not to grow at all or grow on the other side of the fence. They might wander further than you like and be uncontrollable. Whatever it is, you can rest assured that it will be unexpected, shocking, rebellious and impossible to control in an irresistible way. It’s not any different when it comes to sex and love with an Aquarian! This experience is not for everyone…
Aquarius teaches us that being our own autonomous, self-functioning individual means we don’t render ourselves powerless to an individual, group or culture. This is a healthy boundary of conformity without vulnerability. The downside of this is a possible fanatical level of tyranny, being erratic and living in constant resistance. This is not pretty in love. The liberation you love so much in your Aquarius is the same liberation that can, and most often separates you. A relationship with an Aquarian will challenge you to be an individual as part of a relationship – not one or the other. They can strike this perfect balance and they expect the same of you. Veer too much to one side and it does not work for them! They will disappear as fast as they appear or end what seemed to be a perfectly happy ten-year marriage in a flash. Don’t expect them to look back either, because they won’t. In true spirit their heads are in the future of something else and probably in the pants of someone else.
You can’t act surprised by this because it’s almost guaranteed your Aquarian forewarned you of all of the above! One of the joys of this sign is if you ask them how they feel or what they want, they will tell you. Much like the Scorpio there aren’t any hidden agendas and they will tell you outright “I don’t want a relationship” or share how they ended things in the past. If you’re not blindsided or deafened by love or lust, which is typically the case, you will be told everything you need to know and can proceed with calculated risk. The problem is that you probably are blindsided and people hear what they want to hear! If they tell you they can shut their feelings off like a hose then that is exactly what they can do and exactly what you should expect at some point. It’s purely your choice to accept the risk with the adventure! The glitch is that you actually think you’re making this choice.
True to their sign the Aquarian lover has a unique way of capturing their partner. They are not like Scorpio who lures their prey with raw sexuality and piercing claws into your soul. Aquarius captures you with a nonchalant approach to sex and being a man/woman to all of mankind. They are not enslaved to their libido and can practice rigid self-control over human desires. They often believe they are above the law in everything, including sex. Women relish in this believing they have died and gone to heaven because they found a man who didn’t revolve around sex – or so they believe. Just like you can’t have life without death; Aquarius doesn’t need sex but they do have to have it! They just won’t unlesss they connect with you mentally. For them it’s brains before beauty and friendship is the foundation to everything. Don’t fool yourself however, of all the signs an Aquarius can have cool detached sex, sleep their way up the ladder or have some extra on the side and not blink an eye. You see it’s not that they want to, it’s that they have to.
After they have hooked with you the lack of sexuality they will reel you in with sex everyday. They expected to be worshiped because they are not really “of man” and will treat you in the same Godly way. So much so the experience can be all consuming and soars beyond the typical human experience. What else would you expect from an eccentric revolutionary who does things unlike any other? Just when you think you’re on the most magical carpet ride of your life this Uranus ruled sign could shock your world! Uranus is the planet of unexpected and sudden change. (Inquire into the life of ANY Aquarius and they will provide you with an untold number of examples.) The event might be catastrophic or completely odd like an emergency plane landing that results in connecting with their next love interest. Rest assured whatever it is, when they change directions they are gone and the carpet comes crashing down. Don’t expect them to pad your crash landing either – go get a loving Cancer or sensitive Pisces because your Aquarius is long gone.
If an unexpected event hasn’t altered your magic carpet ride, don’t make the mistake of thinking you’re safe. As you are in global flight together exploring humanity and having daily sex, they have many other options and outlets! Aquarians can be the most secretive and sleazy of the signs. So you when discover she is still talking to an ex-boyfriend or he’s still maintaining a profile on an online sex site don’t be surprised. I told you, their head is always somewhere else. When they are not actively playing sleazy, it’s really rather innocent what happens to them. It’s not that THEY are trying to have sex or fall in love with the friend at work, the ex or a stranger they met on a business trip. THEY are only trying to explore the human mind because it’s what fuels them. They must know your mind in depth and understand you. The difference is they can do this and still be detached and most other people can’t! You see, it’s really that the OTHER person falling in love or wanting to have sex with them. If you’ve fallen for an Aquarius you will know exactly what this means! It’s a 50-50 shot of whether they can refuse – they really have to further humanity you know! Friendship is everything to them and in the spirit of humanity they will help all their friends whether it’s listening to them in the wee hours of the night, leaving you when you’re sick to go move a buddy all weekend or going on a vacation with his ex to spend time together with the kids. They are just doing what they do to better society and humanity. The rest of the world must manage this. If you’re not able to strike that perfect balance, forgo jealously, insecurity and provide the freedom and space that’s required – your magic carpet ride is over!
The irony is that even if you balance this, provide space and freedom there is still the risk your Aquarian will lose interest. Of all signs they have a tendency to stray and have dalliances on the side whether THEY initiate it or the other person does. They don’t believe anyone is out of their league and if something new comes along that might soar them to another level of humanity, they will probably take it! Their draw to the whole is greater than to the individual even via another individual.It’s not that they want to, it’s that they have to!
This should NOT deter you from love, relationships or sex with an Aquarius! This can be one of the greatest loves of your life! When they finally do fall in love they can be one of the most dedicated of all signs. This sign is at it’s best later in life and as a result they marry young and often until they get it just right. It’s still worth the risk. They love family, their community and will stimulate you mentally and physically until the end of time as your best friend.
No other sign will give you the same kind of magical sexual carpet ride! Although they’d like you to think they are prudish on the outside, behind closed doors they will unearth a human part of you that you didn’t know existed! They are masters of long foreplay and the mind-fuck. They are eccentric and freaky in the bedroom unlike any other sign and may surprise you with domination tendencies, threesomes, cyber or phone sex, orgies, kink or fetishes! Aquarians typically like mutual anal play and watching a partner masturbate. If the sex isn’t enough to entice you the experience of a global, humanitarian love should be. It borders on the ethereal journey of a Pisces and you will not have this with the other ten signs! It’s an experience worth having at least once! The best way to approach this is with your eyes wide open, understanding nothing is permanent and that it’s a calculated risk. Enjoy the moment in the moment because it’s all you really have with an Aquarius. Isn’t this how we should be living life anyway?
The Aquarius female is one who embodies the stereotype of female in its truest sense. I’m not speaking of the girly-girl either. She can be that to, but I’m talking about the female who completely baffles the male species with her mind set to do things her own way and change her mind at any point of time! What you can expect from this gal is the unexpected. She is the non-conformist of all non-conformists! Stubborn Taurus and manipulative Scorpio better watch out. After a sleazy romp in the hay with this woman you’ll think you’ll have died and gone to heaven but you’ll soon drive yourself insane trying to control her! You won’t figure her out because as soon as you realize she’s patient she is impatient. She conforms to what suits HER not you and although she requires peace she is rebellious. She will comply and just as fast be so stubborn you won’t know what you. Her friends, family, career, hobbies and community activities will be unique, eccentric and odd compared to most, which is exactly what you’ll love about her. She will constantly shock you and test you, which might actually drown that Pisces fish. The balanced stability of Libra will hold her steady; another Aquarius will satiate her but shock and leave her just as fast as she will him; and Gemini can keep a step ahead or behind with her just as she needs. Sex will be great with Leo but her air will only inflame his fire – King of the Jungle or not, she is the Goddess of humanity! Steer clear of Cancer who will drape this girl in a wet blanket of moods; and although the crave the secret order and stability of Virgo this isn’t an easy union.
The Aquarian male will visit your head, heart and pants but you’ll never really know how long he’ll stay. This is irrelevant because every moment with this man will feel like a lifetime in it’s own right. Some will stay a lifetime, others only a moment and this could be in the first or third marriage. It’s impossible to predict, just like this man. Of all signs he requires the most space and freedom and will settle for nothing less. As a fixed air sign you must be willing to conform to what works for him, if you don’t he will just move on because someone will. It’s not that he won’t compromise in relationships; he will! He can be loving, romantic, giving, and all that good stuff – it’s just that his head is always in the future and always focused on the humanitarian level. He will be more worried about how everything is going for all his co-workers more than how you are coping on your own job. He will listen but a part of him is always over there. A partner must understand this and be able to cope. This is workable for Libra who balances him; another Aquarius who is just like him; and Gemini who can soar on the mental and physical plane with him. A Leo or Aries will be fun at first but chances are it won’t be for the long haul. A Pisces is ethereal enough to handle this waterbearer, but Cancer may not get the emotional connection they need. The unpredictability will send a Taurus six-feet under making it a difficult relationship! A Scorpio will smother his spirit lifeless with manipulative emotions, control and power. Although he likes the tidy oranization of a Virgo and how they control their environment, this turbulent union struggles over time. It takes a certain kind of woman to be with a man who isn’t really a man in his mind and is above the law! You must have the mental agility to soar with him and be his best friend under all circumstances without smothering him. If you can’t be in the moment at all times, run now. If you can’t love in the context of risk and still enjoy it 100%, run now. If you can’t cope with the fact he’ll have many female friends and still talk to his first and second ex-wife daily – Aquarius isn’t the man for you!
How to Attract an Aquarius
First and foremost you must be their friend! This will require intelligence and wit because it’s brains over beauty for this sign. They must feel like you are on an equal mental level with them or they will never respect you. Give them a lot of freedom and space and then give them some more. Worship them in a healthy, non-needy way and let them explore the depths of your mind. Delve into the mental foreplay! Buy into their dreams of extraordinary humanitarian love without clinging to their love should they be so include to share it. Being assertive with this sign works. Just go for it. Grab them for an unexpected kiss or romp in the hay. Drive across state lines to have sex in the middle of the night with the Aquarius you just met. In their cool, detached and sleazy way they will love this. You should also be willing to explore the kinky side of sex and even be a bit sleazy at times to maintain their interest. Shock them unexpectedly intellectually and physically and you might just keep them forever!