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“Feeling Snake”
October 23 to November 21
I DESIRE…
Element: WATER (emotional, intuitive)
Modality: FIXED (loyal, enduring, determined)
Polarity: Yin/Feminine
Ruling Planet: Pluto (modern), Mars (traditional)
Zodiac Symbol: The Scorpion
Most compatible: Cancer, Pisces, Virgo, Capricorn
Least compatible: Leo, Aquarius, Aries, Gemini
Opposite (mirror image): Taurus
Sexy Scorpio Traits: Mysterious, passionate, powerful, shrewd, seductive and intensely hot with sex appeal and emotion!
Devilish Scorpio Traits: Secretive, vengeful, paranoid, observatory, lives in the shadows, manipulative, controlling and black and white.
Scorpio Sexstrology
The old saying goes you haven’t had sex until you’ve had sex with a Scorpio! There is no point in questioning or debating this theory. It’s true, and some. Just ask anyone with a Scorpio lover, they’ll tell you. Think of it like you haven’t really experienced life until you’ve seen death, or experienced great love until you’ve felt profound heartbreak. Scorpio’s are the Phoenix Rising – the newly transformed soul rising from the fiery ashes of hell. They are the life and death, cathartic orgasm every person should experience at least once in their lifetime. Did the hair on your neck stand up? It should have. By now you’re either likely really intrigued or really scared. If you have even a sliver of fear, run now. Don’t stop, don’t pass go and don’t look back or you might just be looking in the eye of a stinger.
If you aren’t scared or maybe you are but like the thought of danger, hang on! You’re in for the ride of a lifetime. Here is your second warning. Don’t even think about getting in their car if you’re not comfortable being a passenger, because you’ll never be the driver. They will always be in control whether it’s overt and they’re driving, or covert and they are telling you exactly how to steer, stop and go. Also, don’t even think about getting in with a destination in mind. If you’re not willing to go wherever your Scorpio lover takes you, hail a cab and move on now. Otherwise, hop in. It will be a fantastic ride! They will drive you through the most vulnerable, scary and ecstatic crevices of your heart, body and soul! This sign will take you to the depths of a dark passion you didn’t know existed. Some will actually let you come back up for air, others won’t. Choose wisely because any interaction with a Scorpio is transformative, it’s unavoidable.
If this sounds like fun, buckle up! We’ve only scratched the surface of this enigmatic creature who remains the most mysterious, misunderstood and complex sign of the zodiac. Let’s look at Scorpio through the analogy of the sex garden as we have the other signs up to this point. One of the major themes of Scorpio (they have several) is transformation. In the lifecycle of the garden this is when everything is changing. Change can look many different ways: massive stalks of seeds line the top of basil plants, cucumbers turn green after months of growth, Chard leaves fall off and other plants shrivel up and die. When you’re with a Scorpio change is seeking you whether or not you’re seeking it. The mystery lies within whether or not you’ll seed new growth, shed old beliefs or shrivel up and die. You get to choose; they simply help you along the way by fretting out your deepest, darkest secrets and desires. What is life altering to you is no big deal to them; it’s the reality in which they live and they can’t help it.
Now take all that into the bedroom. With a passionate demeanor this sign will turn your world upside down and in twists you never thought possible. Their raw intensity hints of danger and their pure smoldering sexuality will drop your panties faster than you can blink. Like the best roller coaster ride, the climb to the top will send your loins to the heavens just like the decent will send your soul to an ecstatic hell. If you’re even remotely scared of a little pain, spank or pinch; their pleasure of slight masochism isn’t for you. While they can take this to an extreme, it isn’t common as it is with Capricorns who often take S & M off the deep end. Scorpios like the control, but they enjoy playing more with the idea of sex slaves, playful domination, intense pleasurable torture, role-playing, fantasies and anything with some seedy, dangerous taboo involved. The Dr. SexTalk tag line “Nothing Taboo” is just for you Scorpio! Any Virgo’s still in line might want to think again. Sex is anything but planned, pristine, proper or clean with a Scorpio! In those passionate moments of desire the hotter, wetter, messier, deeper, harder and more forbidden the better!
Scorpio lives in the wet, dark depths of their own soul and aren’t satisfied with anything less than reaching yours whether they are your family, friend or lover. Drama is synonymous with Scorpio – you can’t have one without the other. They will swear up and down they hate it, and they do, but they always have it. If they don’t, they cause it or attract it and it’s always present in their lives somewhere. It’s not so much the drama they want, it’s the intensity of experience and emotion that they need or they just can’t feel. Most people can handle lukewarm coffee – not a Scorpio. They need it ice cold or steaming hot which is what drama offers them. There is no in between (or any gray areas) unless you have a Scorpio just hanging out in limbo. This should frighten all of us because it’s like putting a Band-Aid on a bleeding vein. This Scorpio will finally leave limbo you just need to make sure they go in a positive direction or their self suffering, brooding will drag you into the depths of hell.
This sign defines being black and white, all consuming and resolute in anything and everything. They may come across as easy going, congenial and even approachable, but make no mistake that is the Scorpio lure. They are a fixed, water sign or frozen ice. Think about that however, when in pain nothing feels better than frozen ice! Most human beings live in a state of pain. They need ice but are so afraid of living on the edge of ecstasy that one intense look of a Scorpio will send them fleeing to the soft arms of a Cancer or harmonious Libra. Other people are hypnotized by the luring mystery and sexual essence of Scorpio. This usually renders them stupid so the Scorpio does what they want with them then stings and kills them. It’s more exciting to watch stupid die, just because they can. (While most of you are in shock reading this, every Scorpio has a wicked grin on their face because they know it’s true.) For the rest of the brave souls, Scorpio’s may fluster and lure us into their space but it simply means game ON!
A Scorpio will only let you play in its corner if they decided in the first minute of meeting you if you were worth their time. If they dislike you instantly, don’t even try they are worse than Alcatraz. If they are bored and you aren’t paying attention to their subtle signs, they’ll let you in just to sting and kill you because it’s easy and you were being stupid. Playing, breathing and inhibiting the same space with a Scorpio is a whole different game. They will share their corner if you’re intriguing and brave enough to go there – without fear. But never forget that corner is like a ¼ of a dartboard with our Scorpio in the back corner of the Bull’s Eye. Once you’re in, you’re in but then it’s a constant test of how far you go or how long you can stay. If you’re in an outer circle and cross them you might get stung instantly and killed. Or you might just linger around for an undetermined amount of time as the waters calm. Then when you least expect it Scorpio attacks and you can only hope it’s painless, which it usually isn’t. It might take them days, weeks, or even years to finally attack, but they will without a doubt. It’s not any different in real life. A scorpion won’t chase you just to sting you. It will either sting you because you bothered it or it lured food into its space for that purpose. If you leave them alone they will leave you alone – it’s the simplest and best rule to follow with Scorpio people as well!
On the other hand when you move into their inner circles of trust, you get closer and they give you more room than most to make mistakes. It can take them longer than other zodiac signs to remove you from their existence because more than anyone they understand the erroneous side of human nature. This is the paradox of Scorpio, the life and death – the passion and pain. Knowing when and how to move closer to their Bull’s Eye is where it gets tricky. This is the sultry seduction of Scorpio. For the most part if a Scorpio is even talking to you or giving you ANY of their time, that is a positive sign. Don’t expect them to asking delving questions. They don’t like people to pry so they don’t pry. On the other hand if you want to know something you have to ask them. If they want to tell you they will. If they ignore your question, and they have no problem doing that or deflecting with a question – don’t push it. They are the masters of getting everything out of others and sharing very little, unless of course they run into me. I own that game. If they share anything personal or revealing take it as another good sign and understand it’s a privilege never to violate.
Don’t ever betray their trust or make anything about them public without their permission. This might be tricky for the die-hard Facebook posters. Post something personal about them and it’s a huge risk because invariably they will find out. They’ll do one of two things, either sit back and wait and watch you do it over and over then sting and kill you. Or they’ll confront you with it when you least expect it. This is when you’re looking in the eye of the stinger. You have a choice in this moment, lie or confess. Lie and you’re dead in the water. Bravely confess with a sincere promise to never do it again and there might be hope. I recommend the later because a Scorpio always knows if you’re lying. If you pass this second test (not lying) there a good chance they’ll forgive you, despite the fact you failed the first test of making their business public. Don’t make this mistake again, because in their all or nothing world there’s rarely a third chance.
Friends and families fare well with their Scorpios because everyone has learned to get a long. It’s that lover venturing into new territory that has the dangerous journey. Make no mistake it’s dangerous for the Scorpio too. They are watching your every move, thought, word and behavior with laser precision. They don’t miss anything, ever. If you like one, don’t try to pretend you don’t. They see right through you no matter what you do, it’s just a matter of what they will keep letting you do. Most Scorpio’s already know if they’re interested but it entertains them to watch you hop and skip around. They know they can always go in for the kill with laser precision but that is too easy. Waiting to see what their prey will do offers some element of unknown, which they like despite their self-claimed motto of “I Know.” They enjoy the game when someone can actually play with them. Keep in mind they are predators by nature, but they are not hunters. They don’t need to hunt you – they just lure you into their space with a provocative energy that is impossible to resist. It’s just a matter of time until they consume you or tantalize you with subtle manipulation to the point you’ll pounce on them exactly like they want you to.
For the most part they don’t typically waste time when it comes to love and sex. Scorpio’s don’t needs to cajole and court a mate; if they want you they want you. If they are doing any of this chances are its because you need it and they know that. They simply lure you to them and wait for you to come around, and boy can they wait. In classic Scorpio fashion this goes one of two ways – all or nothing. As the ultimate Madonna-Whore of the zodiac, the Scorpio’s discipline of their desires can outwait anyone. They’ve mastered the perfect internal Hoover Dam to contain their intense passions and desires. On the other hand, the instant their desires overcome them the dam bursts and the waters of emotion sweep away anything in its path! They know all too well they are like this, which is why they hide and protect themselves so fiercely. As much as they want it, they are scared of the vulnerability (not power) it yields. They understand the meaning of life. They understand that it can’t be understood. They also know they know we know more than any Deity and that truth comes from within. They know we ask the questions then make up all the answers. For most people this knowingness usually only comes from that emotional flashflood when life (or love with a Scorpio) passes before your eyes.
Lastly, if you’re still reading and you’re not a Scorpio, then you might just be ready to risk love and or sex with a Scorpio. Warning #3 – don’t go here if you’re scared of not being able to come back. You can’t ever come back to what you know right now and honestly, you won’t want to. Sex will never be the same and you will never be the same. Scorpio’s can’t help it – it’s just their nature.
HOW TO ATTRACT A SCORPIO
Coming soon…
Attracting a Scorpio Male
Attracting a Scorpio Female
