Why do people cheat on their partners? The reasons could fill this page – but for the most part it’s because something is missing in the relationship.
Usually men are missing sexual satisfaction and women are missing emotional connection. It’s not always the case, but this is very common. Studies showed that men used to cheat more than women, but nowadays women are cheating almost as much.
What is missing for people that they seek it in another person? Men will talk about how much they love their wives yet scour chat rooms or FriendFinder websites for women to have sex with. They’ll often say their wives won’t do more in bed or they wouldn’t dare ask their wife to do what they really want. One man told me “She is the mother of my children, how can I ask her to dominate me sexually?”
Women will confide they love their husbands but don’t feel like he pays attention to her and as a result doesn’t feel connected to him emotionally. Women are vulnerable for a new male friend who listens, dotes, smiles at her and makes her feel special all over again. Small talk turns to friendship, to companionship, to flirting, to dirty flirting and one thing leads to another. Suddenly emotional needs are met and infidelity is a reality.
There is so much to say on this topic, where does one even start? Are we even meant to be monogamous? Is kissing cheating? Is dirty flirting cheating or does it depend on your intentions? What about chat rooms? Text messages? Should you tell your partner? What if it only happened once and you’ll never do it again? What are the signs of cheating? Can a relationship recover from infidelity? Is it true once a cheater always a cheater?
